I probably was not going to read this book anytime soon, and this was *such* a useful definition for me. I have been trying to grok what is the subtle difference between folks I refer to as "partners" vs not (I do not necessarily have sex with all of them), and this got it right on the money. I do not know why it was not intuitive to me that explaining a concept from a book is helpful to do.
I'm fascinated by how *little* this resonates with me. Looking at the HEART components I feel: these are all good things, but they don't need to go together! I see more of a cluster around intensity/depth of connection, and another around reliability/availability. Then again, I'm quite the collector of comets, and some of my deepest moments of connection are with people I only rarely spend time with.
I probably was not going to read this book anytime soon, and this was *such* a useful definition for me. I have been trying to grok what is the subtle difference between folks I refer to as "partners" vs not (I do not necessarily have sex with all of them), and this got it right on the money. I do not know why it was not intuitive to me that explaining a concept from a book is helpful to do.
I'm fascinated by how *little* this resonates with me. Looking at the HEART components I feel: these are all good things, but they don't need to go together! I see more of a cluster around intensity/depth of connection, and another around reliability/availability. Then again, I'm quite the collector of comets, and some of my deepest moments of connection are with people I only rarely spend time with.