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Tam's avatar

It feels to me like the world (at least the middle-class American world I live in) needs a bit more of this Shrier-type thinking, in the same way it needs a little more of the Jordan Peterson type of stuff. Just a smidge, not a whole serving. But it's probably impossible to write a book that says, "Mostly what you think is right, but just season it with this other perspective." It would be hard to even be motivated to write that kind of book. So the people who advocate this stuff advocate it full-throatedly. If you can culture-surf a variety of content (as most of us do) without falling too deeply into it, that's probably a good way forward. Then again, I converted to Catholicism last year, so I can testify that there's always a danger of falling the whole way into something that promises to be The Answer.

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I can’t overstate how strongly I endorse this. I was raised — with the best of intentions, by people who genuinely thought it was best practice and had worked for them — to suppress inconvenient (to self or others) feelings. It made me very “functional,” and concurrently and quietly made an unholy mess of my life, and I would not recommend it to anyone. Sorry to splat all over your comments section etc but it really cannot be emphatically enough underlined.

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